Some Truths
Random observations:
People who are critical of others will probably eventually be critical of you.
You can't avoid everyone you might ever disagree with. How do you know the warning signs for a relationship that's going to get really toxic?
You can't negotiate with someone if you have everything to lose and they have nothing.
Corollary: In a partnership you must have near equal risk or one of you can screw the other too easily.
When someone complains about a problem they always have with others, they are probably going to eventually have that problem with you.
Is it worth it to see if you can work around that inevitable fact?
If you think the worst will happen, that in itself doesn't mean the worst will happen. However, if the worst does happen, you won't feel better that you predicted it.
The first 25 years are the hardest. In any endeavor.
How do you know when to quit?
Some people will risk everything they have for something they can't have.
This one is from my 8-year-old son, today: Nothing is truly free, and everything dies or crumbles, even bridges.
Niiiiiice.
posted by Alexa Weber Morales @ 5/07/2009
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> People who are critical of others will probably eventually be critical of you.
They already have been. You just haven't heard about it yet.
> You can't negotiate with someone if you have everything to lose and they have nothing.
Also known as the Principle of Least Interest: He or she who is least interested in a relationship gets to dictate the terms. (See also: Soviet Union vs. West during the Cold War, Pakistan & U.S. today, sex between partners with wildly different appetites, etc.)
> How do you know when to quit?
Whenever the noise of my life crashing around my ears drowns out the din of my late parents chanting "Winners never quit" at me.
> Nothing is truly free, and everything dies or crumbles, even bridges.
TANSTAAFL, my young friend! (Has he read The Moon Is A Harsh Mistress yet?). As for everything dying or crumbling...that's merely an induction on his part. Me, I'm planning on living forever, and on love surviving right along with me.
I like this saying about criticism: "If they ain't talking shit about you... you ain't shit!"
Ha ha, I just realized I missed your comment about "sex between partners with wildly different appetites" because you prefaced it with Soviet Union vs. West, blah blah blah! :-)
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